VIDESH YATRA. BHAGA-7 (concluding part)
Atmiyare,
My Videsh Yatra is being concluded here as Videsh Yatra Bhaga-7.After having seen all the places which I narrated in my last six parts and having stayed in US for 2 months, now I feel that I want to share my inner most feelings with you which are hidden in my heart; I strongly feel that I should open up my feelings before you. Mind without thinking; heart without feeling & life without sharing is of no use. Isn't it? As I told you in my first part, truly I never dreamt that I would visit America in my life. When I have been bestowed with this, according to HIS wish, how can I not express my thanks & how grateful I should be to HIM. To beget good children one should have a good luck. It is all our purva samskara(runanubandhena rupena pashu patni suta aalaya) Now, let me put it this way : I did not visit and see America, but my daughter showed America to us. Am I correct? Even now I remember those days when my daughter on completion of her B.E, expressed her wishes to continue her higher studies in America, I was lost in thought for a moment. "Is it possible for a middle class person like me to take up such an endeavor?" I became quiet for few days, but she continued her pursuance. At last when I started thinking seriously about it, my mind jumped in to my student days. It was the same position. I was standing in front of my father pleading him for my higher studies i.e. M.A. in Economics at Manasa Gangotri in Mysore. Those were very hard days. When I came to know it would not be materialized, my desire was crushed and probably was deeprooted in my subconscious mind. Now… when my child was standing before me with the same plea, my hidden desire rushed out; I thought "at that time, really my father was not in a position to continue my higher studies. But now, I am placed in a much better position by HIS grace, why shouldn't I heed to her request; at least by raising loan from a Bank." I made up my mind to send her to pursue her higher studies. My wife also encouraged me. Where there is a will; there is a way. Few of my friends & relatives came forward and helped me. Can I forget them in my life? A great writer & poet Dr. G.S.Shivarudrappa says, " Enitu janumadali enitu jeevigaligenitu naavu runiyo; Bagedu nodidode baalu embudidu runada ratna khanio." On her part, my daughter took it as a challenge; she worked very hard & completed her M.S. (Computer Sc.) in distinction. After this, she didn't return but searched for a job here as she was fully aware of her responsibility. She is self-determined, very challenging, courageous & a good girl. She cleared off the loan within a short span. Now this is the 6th year of her stay in US. Really we are very proud of her. We feel very happy in seeing her being happy with her husband. Our whole hearted blessings to them. Let them be happy in their entire life…… Many things we have to learn from the West, especially their cleanliness, civic sense & honesty as I have observed. In my previous parts, I have quoted some examples for these. They have cultivated the habit of throwing any wastes in to the trash (box kept for the purpose) wherever they go. I didn't find person spit on roads or in any public places. If any person (pedestrian) crossing road, they stop their vehicle at the distance & then move. While walking with their dog, its waste should also be cleaned up & dropped in the box meant for that. They maintain cleanliness in public places including restrooms. One thing that impressed me more is, honesty shown by them in shops or malls. Anybody can enter malls with their bags like vanity bag or bag with the things already purchased some where else. They need not keep them in counters as we usually do here. They take trolley or basket, collect things whatever they want going around in such big malls. There will be no watching or checking as such and though they have chance to cheat, they wouldn't do that. They come in queue to counter with their trolley and check out after paying bill. Even self checkout is also there. They teach all these things to their children. Can you imagine this in our country? They don't bother/ interfere about persons around them unless their help is required. Most of them take good food with high calories & very much concerned about their health. I wouldn't say all 100% will be like Satya Harischandra. Rather I am telling you of the majority. Those who do not follow rules will be fined & punished. But one thing, they are very much scared of cops (police). In cities like New York, it is just like our Bangalore particularly people about road sense. There is a proverb in Kannada "Kosha oodu; Desha suttu. " How meaningful it is!! Really we gain much by reading & travelling in & around the country. It gives lot of experience & it enriches our knowledge. There is certainly a change in our personality. During week ends we used to visit different places around. But I want to tell you how we were spending our remaining week days. Of course, every morning my daughter and son-in-law used to go in different directions for their work till evening. What we three have to do? It is well equipped house; carpeted floor, dish wash, oven, electric stove, stored milk in the fridge, washing machine & dryer and what not. Absolutely there was no work. For any parents who visit foreign to see their children, they have to face this. Some times they may get bored.This is a common problem. Since this is a village, very silent atmosphere having greenery around.(Don't imagine our countryside village) We used to have a very sound sleep. Whatever disturbed sleep we had at Bangalore due to choultry & noisy vehicles, was compromised by a good sleet here. We used to get up little late in the morning. I know Yoga (I learnt it for 8 years from my father-in law who was Yoga teacher & my Guru.) I was doing that in the morning for 1 hr daily. My wife used to spend some time in cooking, arranging kitchen things in their right places, in preparing Rasam powder, chutney pudi, cleaning the different kalus & beles etc., younger daughter in her studies for 2nd year degree & chatting and mailing over Laptop to her friends & relatives in India. Those were the election days in Karnataka and I was keen about the day-to-day developments. I used to read kannada & English news paper through internet. With everything available online, as there is no need for system of supplying news paper every day morning to anybody's door steps here. I used to share these matters with my family members &used to play carom during late evening. sometimes my wife & daughters used to go for shopping. For a long time we had not been to Theatres to see movies. Can you imagine how many pictures we might have seen here by playing DVDs? See here is the list below: KANNADA: Akasmika, Shruti Seridaga, Makeup, Dvipa, Priti Prema Pranaya, America-America, Narada Vijaya, Kanchana Ganga, Pakka- Chukka, Vasanta Gita, Holu Bari Holu, Supar Nanmaga, Yardo duddu yallammana jatre, Appu HINDI: Ramji Londonwale, Om Shanti Om, Nayak, Sarfarosh, Pukar, Ham aapke hein koun , Ham hai raahi pyar ke, Jab we met, Salam Namaste, Baazi TELUGU: Bommarillu, Varsham, Manasanta Nuve, Sankaraabharanam, Nunostanante Nen odduntana, ENGLISH: Sixth Sense, Casper, Honey I blew up the kids, Cliff Hanger, Tarzan, Snakes on the plane etc…… One thing I felt very bad is, I had visited 2-3 Indian stores and Temples here and at Pittsburg & at New Jersey where kannadigas are more. In these places, CDs on literature, songs & films are available in Hindi, Telugu, Tamil, Marathi & even Malayalam, but for my surprise, rarely CDs are available in kannada. What a unfortunate thing!! If there were to be any demand & pressure or even little efforts from the kannadigas here, this situation wouldn't have arisen. ….. While coming over here I had brought some books of my interest to read, like Dattatreya-The Way and the Goal. By H.H.Jayachamarajendra Odeyar, transalated to Kannada by S.Venkatachalapathi. This is not the life story of Dattatreya but a spiritual book quoting shlokas & mantras from Veda, Upanishads, Geetha & puranas which included Jivanmukta Geetha & Avadhuta Geetha. (2) Know your Reality- by Swami Virajeshvara. (3) Beyond Birth And Death- by Swami Prabhupada.This reading really helped me to know more about Adhyatma…. In the evening, we used to go for walking daily towards different directions with camera on hand. It helped us in two ways. One is we acquainted ourselves with new communities (areas), another is daily walk is good for health. By the way, I want to tell you about our visit to IKEA, Potomac Mills- a big Mall here in Virginia on 21st Saturday & to National Zoo at Washington DC on 22nd Sunday .In IKEA, we saw different models of every section of the house. By seeing these models of kitchen bedroom bath etc we could get an idea of how best we can utilize the space and arrange our house in a given space. Every item kept in the model is tagged and has a name and place as to where it is available in the store. Anything that catches our eye or of our interest and well with in our budget, we can note down the name and place where it is available in the product list that is kept ard here and there in the store. We can also pick up paper tapes to measure Really it gives a lot of ideas for apt arrangement of our home. We did some shopping at Potomac mall. In National Zoo, animals are not in good numbers. Of course, maintenance is good. The reson to it is the extreme weather conditions all year around and its difficult to maintain them. Our Mysore Zoo is better than this so far as conservation of animals are concerned. We are leaving here on 1st July and with only 4 days ahead for our return to India, we have decided to perform Sri Satya Narayana puja on 28th Saturday. I pray that LORD to grant you all health, wealth & happiness.. On Sunday we would like to spend together at home as all these week ends we were running around to see places. Whatever I may appreciate, but there is no social life here. Yarige yaro purandhara vittala. Compare to India, the social setup is entirely different here. After 18 years children are not dependent on their parents. In our marriages the bridegroom takes an oath that " Dharmecha, Arthecha, Kaamecha Na ati charami. But achieving Moksha it is one's own efforts. Our system, our bondage – Adhikara, Kartavya & javabdari, our values to life can not be expected here in the same way. Of course, my stay here is very short. I haven't gone deep in to the western culture. If a westerner visits India he may appreciate many things and point out so many drawbacks of us. No end for that. We have to accept good things on either side. Better I conclude this with the Rig Veda mantra as under:
"AANO BHADRAH KRATAVO YANTU VISHVATAHA"
( Let us keep our windows wide opened. Let noble thoughts flow to us from all directions of the world.)
"Sarve Jana Sukhino Bhavantu OM SHANTI SHANTI SHANTIHI"
I have expressed my summarized opinion in this bhaga 7 of Videsha yatra. Let me know your comments about this. I will be eagerly waiting for your reply
Yours,
Krishnamurthy.K
26 /06 /2008